Some people come for a season. They serve their purpose and poof – they are gone! But others come beyond a season. Even when you think they are gone, they are still here. I’m talking about Carrie Bradshaw, she and her girl crew entertained us for six seasons. The one-liners from the series morphed into insightful love quotes we’ll share today.
Of course, we watched her and her friends navigate life when ‘Sex and the City’ premiered in 1998 all the way thought to the 2004 finale. But we still watch her beyond the six seasons, or aren’t you reading this because Carrie Bradshaw’s words still ring a bell in you when you replay your old DVDs or religiously binge on the program on Netflix?
Let’s stick with the seasonless Carrie Bradshaw, with those priceless love quotes that stood out (I mean stand out) amidst her navel-gazing reflections and her repeated and almost annoying “I couldn’t help but wonder…”
What better way to start if not with the quote that will still be true when no woman is left on earth?!
15 Carrie Bradshaw Love Quotes That Are Still Worthy Today
1 – “Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first.”
Of all the love quotes Carrie coined, this could be the mose worthy to remember.
It could be things you own or desire to own, family members you cherish, a BFF, or that man who will not notice you but keeps your brain thinking when you should be snoring your way to the dreamland.
People will come and go, they come for a season. But there’s this one person that comes beyond seasons, and that’s YOU. If you haven’t learned to stick with yourself when Jack Berger outs and seals the one-sided deal with a post-it, well girl, you are in real trouble.
So darling, don’t ever forget to fall in love with yourself first!
2 – “I’m looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t live without each other love.”
This is somewhat an illusion, you know, in an individualistic world. But who’s that normal woman (or man) who doesn’t want to be loved genuinely, without conditions, just as they are?
Aside from the famous love quotes, let’s steal another Carrie-ism here… “I couldn’t help but wonder” is there any satisfaction in settling for less than you deserve? Real love?
And if you are like Carrie Bradshaw, sampling tons of them and not tasting that perfect blend of ingredients, then you’ll probably keep seeking. Don’t lower the standards, Mr. Big will finally come along. Even just for a season.
3 – “Here’s to the guys who love us, the losers who lost us, and the lucky bastards that get to meet us.”
Every relationship has some gaining and losing. Cheers to those who find what makes them stay around in a relationship, it’s fulfilling.
You can quit but still gain, that’s if you were genuine. Those are the ones that will still be friends, and I mean genuine friends, no hard feelings.
The losers miss the essential. And when they leave, it’s with a void. Their loss!
Those who just meet us…well, there’s nothing to it. They are just “bastards” without an identity. They are gone, they are gone! No memories.
4 – “All you need is love… and diamonds, and those heels, and that dress.”
Really!? Is that all there is to life?
Yes! If it means diamonds, and heels, and dresses are all you need to be happy. Or maybe not. When you’ve walked the streets of your New York (or your city) with every pair of heels and every pretty dress you’ve ever wanted, you will still hear yourself say…”All I need is love.”
You need someone that appreciates that part of you that has nothing to do with heels and dresses, and everything else that eventually goes out of fashion. That part has everything to do with YOU! And yes, that’s Love!
5 – “Maybe some women are not meant to be tamed. Maybe they are supposed to run wild until they find someone just as wild to run with.”
When you are so desperate about finding the right person and at some point realize you are trying too hard and maybe compromising too much, then comes the revelation that you shouldn’t change yourself to fit someone else’s life. You shouldn’t be tamed.
And running wild…? Is it not living the freedom of being yourself and sticking to the limits you set because they are part of your goals?
So, when the ‘someone just as wild’ comes along, souls and goals will tangle, and they can run wild together.
6 – “Did I ever really love Big or was I addicted to the pain, the exquisite pain, of wanting someone so unattainable?
At what point do you ask this question? Is it in your 20s when you are enjoying life, in your 30s when you are learning life’s lessons or in your 40s when you pay for your choices?
And when Mr. Big is gone? Do you finally realize that eating the dinners he paid for and not taking seriously that one time he stood you up is taking a toll on you?
You are better off asking the questions in your 20s (which never happens anyway). The pain of doing so in your 40s is excruciating. And you have no way of turning back the clock.
7 – “But if you love someone and you break up, where does the love go?”
The memories, the good times, the special days and nights, they will all hover around for some time. They will turn the ‘lost’ love into a wound. And well, untreated wounds become chronic.
So, it’s not about where the love goes, it’s about what we do with it. I suggest you reinvest it back where it belongs because you will need it.
You’ll need to cuddle by yourself and tell yourself it shall be well when everything seems to suggest the opposite.
Getting back on your feet again, there is where the broken love goes.
8- “Destroy all pictures where he looks sexy and you look happy.”
Your classic advice on bouncing back from a breakup, “Exclamation point!”
It might take a while. But if you keep contemplating those pictures and moments and crying over every one of them, you’ve got eternity to drain your tears-bag.
Destroy the pictures! Move on!
9 – “Why do we let the one thing we don’t have affect how we feel about all the things we do have? Why does one minus a plus one feel like it adds up to zero?”
You’ve probably made that experience. He’s there and he’s not there. It’s you minus his empty presence which you continue to hang on to. You know how much that messes up your brain. It messes your work, and your sleep too. And most of all it messes all that you’ve got, and that’s yourself.
10 – “I think I’m in love with him and I’m terrified he’s gonna leave me ’cause I’m not perfect.”
We all relate to this somehow. But do we ever stop to think that the other person is imperfect too, and maybe has the same worry running through their mind?
Focus on the good in it, you are in love. Being terrified isn’t going to keep him, it’s no point. But maybe being in love will, it’s a more rewarding deal.
11 – “It wasn’t logic, it was love.”
Carrie Bradshaw was ultimately not afraid to take the plunge. Because when love knocks at your door, logic takes a break. If you have fallen in love you know what that means. It’s a battle of control between the head and the heart. And even though you don’t want it, the heart often wins.
It’s ok to let the heart win, but keep logic on standby. You might need it when the battle of control takes a different turn.
12 – “After he left, I cried for a week. And then I realized I do have faith. Faith in myself. Faith that I would one day meet someone… who would be sure I was the one.”
What better discovery than realizing that you have the power within you to overcome even the worst of hurt. Faith in oneself and life makes all the difference. If it lacks, then tears of despair will blur the real truth.
It not about meeting someone who’s sure you are the one, but about being sure the other is the one. Because we can read our hearts, not those of others.
13 – “Some love stories aren’t epic novels, some are short stories. But, that doesn’t make them any less filled with love.”
Living each moment to the full gives value to our love story. It doesn’t matter if it lasts a week or a lifetime. If it won’t be tomorrow, you’ll have made the best of today. If it lasts forever, it’s not about the time, it’s about the single days that counted because each one was filled with love.
14 – “Soul mate: two little words, one big concept. A belief that someone, somewhere, is holding the key to your heart.”
Did nature really pair us from the beginning or do we have to work to find and discover that soulmate with every decision and action we make? And what if we wait for destiny forever?
We are better off keeping the key to our hearts. And when we feel that the one who should hold it has finally come along, pass it on to him. It might be then that we discover he was our destiny all along, our soul mate.
15 – “The most exciting, challenging, and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And, if you find someone to love the you that you love, well, that’s just fabulous.”
When all has been said, it boils down to where we started. Loving oneself is everything. You won’t need to change yourself to create a you that the others can love. In the end, the value you give to yourself is what you will get from other relationships.
So, harness your inner Carrie Bradshaw. And who knows, “if you find someone that loves the you that you love” you’ve got everything. And that is absolutely fabulous.
The Bottom Line on Love Quotes by Carrie Bradshaw
Little did Carrie know that her sometimes funny, sometimes angst-filled zingers would become famous love quotes thought the almost two decades (yep, it’s really been that long) since SATC ended. Yet, the fact remains that these pearls of wisdom live on.